Some people may laugh about the topic, but I just say "It's ok". Some words are very important for our lives but we don't acknowledge them. When a friend places his hand on your shoulders and says "It's ok", when a mother shows her sympathy to broken dreams of her son/daughter and says "it's ok", when you have nothing to say about someone's sadness, depression and frustration and you say "it's ok", it really becomes ok. Because by saying these words you assure that all these circumstances are just for now and temporary. You incorporate the Godly messege with your "it's ok" that "Don't worry, these are just tests which you have to pass, and failure in this temporary world doesn't matter much." By saying these words, you assure your own presence and also remind that your presence is much more important than the circumstances. So, the problem is half solved. Have you ever imagined these not-to-be-acknowledged words can solve your problems that much? It's good if you have, but if not, It's ok. :)
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Friday, December 26, 2008
Love. “The ideal which can’t be achieved”, “Only found in good novels and bad movies”, “Never to be believed in”…
These are the approaches which we have now adopted by assessing the appearances of reality.
This thing, which we don’t believe, first originates in the eyes of mother when a person is born. This “ideal” thing goes parallel with the existence of human in the early stages of his life. Then, this “not to be believed in” thing is transferred to human, and he starts feeling the same for his/her parents. Then it grows for friends. One day, it evolves as energy for a special someone. No matter what happens this energy remains even in the most adverse of the circumstances. When a person starts a relationship, it then takes a form of bonding. Then it automatically reaches its peak for the children.
Alas! We have started thinking differently. I must show you the difference before I give reasons for the same.
When a mother loves her child, we say “It is her duty”, or “Every mother does it nothing special”. When the child grows, he loves his parents; we say “Every child is attached to parents nothing special”. When a person loves his friends, we say “It will stop obviously with time or with loss of common grounds between them”. When it evolves as a special energy for someone, it is not acknowledged, it is mixed with lust / attraction. Then after a person is committed to a relationship, he laments that he is committed. When a person has children, he thinks that he just have to fulfill his duties.
Well, I know above statements are not true for every circumstance, as energy of love is still felt by the humans, although with diminished frequency.
The main reason why Love left us, or why we left Love, is that we stopped believing in it. We have started criticizing everything which has no appearance to our senses. Love, which emerges in the hearts of people who believe in it, is gone away from world as people have started criticizing its existence. We have become people of senses. It is not that we should leave our senses and start believing every superficial thing, but we must remember that superficial exists. Every human has mystical experiences which he can easily point out in his life. But he seldom acknowledges them.
God, and God’s love is also superficial. It never appears but gives signs of its existence. If this form of Love exists then every other form also exists. Love for humans is just a derivation from Love for God.
“Love doesn’t exist”, it is a normal statement by an adult who falls in adverse circumstances. Yes, Love doesn’t exist because you mix it with your need for relationships. Love doesn’t exist as you lament on its existence when circumstances are adverse. You think Love will give you something. Yes it will. But a superficial thing can just give you feelings. It is not an investment from which you seek return. It exists if you continue to believe in it. Just as God is always there for those who believe in him.
Posted by Rehan Damani at 8:25 AM
Thursday, December 25, 2008
The pessimism, the depression, the sadness in me takes a new form now. Please don't take is as an end, it is not. It has taken a new form and it will grow. I knew it as a bird, who used to live within me. I used to call it "Raja Gidh" (King of Vultures). I thought it is a vulture, as it always reminded me of my past, always reminded me of what is dead. It derived pleasure from past memories and lamented on their non-existance in present. Whenever i asked it, "Why do you think there's pleasure in pain?". It said,"I don't know". Maybe, it was Raja Gidh because it didn't know.
But now, it knows that it is a part of a greater reality. Now it knows that it must end in hope, it must end in optimism, it must end in beauty. Now it knows that it is not alone. Now it knows that it is not what it thought it is. It is not king of vultures. It has a Collective Self which includes its own individual self. It is "Simurgh" (means 30 Birds as defined by Attar in "The Conference of the birds"). The Simurgh within me is now growing, and is identifying its parts in other individual selves. Maybe it should make them realize that they exist within it, but this collective self is never short of hope. The tool which must be used is the language of those individual selves, but the idea must be of the collective self.
Posted by Rehan Damani at 11:19 AM